How to Introduce Safer Sex Discussions When Sharing Your Herpes Status
“How do I bring it up?” Sharing your herpes status with someone is part of a larger picture when talking with potential sexual partners. Here are 4 ways to introduce the safer sex conversation:
1. Introduce it via dating app, email, or text message. Many folks feel more comfortable behind a screen (and that’s totally fine if you’re one of them!)
2. In-person if you feel like you may be moving toward physical touch. Pick a neutral spot or somewhere you feel confident and safe!)
3. Cal them. I know the phone may be passé, but if you’re having great conversation with someone online, why not test the waters over the phone? This may also be a great option if you’re feeling like you want more than text communication, but aren’t quite ready for a meet-up. Think of this as part of your interview process.
4. On a casual, after-the-date stroll. You’re not ready to go home or their place, but you’re having good conversation and still want to chat. Grab an ice cream or a cappuccino and talk about your future goals, what you’re seeking in a partner, and how safer sex fits into your values.